Controlling your temper is never an easy thing, especially when your buttons are being pushed. But learning to control your temper can truly benefit and strengthen all relationships. If you’re the kind of person that has sudden outbursts, or rages and they are seriously affecting your relationships then it’s time to make a change. Here are some steps to help you improve how you handle anger, and how it can benefit your relationships.
  1. Time out! Just like you put your own children in a time out when they are having a difficult time controlling their emotions, don’t be afraid to put yourself in one also. If you find yourself getting upset and feeling as if you are about to explode, then try taking a “time out.” Taking a time out can mean many different things, from counting to ten, to totally walking away from the situation until you are composed enough to come back. Not only will this help you control your temper, but it might also save you from offending someone and causing a huge fight. You’re much more likely to save and keep relationships if you can figure out a way to give yourself a time out of the situation.
  2. Get Active! Physical activity can do wonders for the body, and for relationships. If you are someone who has a difficult time controlling your emotions (whether it is anger or something else) then try finding an outlet for your body; physical exertion to ware yourself out. You probably know what kinds of activities work best for you, so whatever it is go and do it. Take a walk, run, go to the gym and lift weights, and go play some good old fashion basketball. Physical activity helps keep your body balanced which can benefit any type of relationship.
  3. Sarcasm. Some people in their attempt to control their emotions tend to resort to using sarcasm. Stay away from it! All it does is demean you and others around you, which will in turn hurt the relationship. You can however use humor to try and lift the situation a little. Try to find something funny about the situation you can see escalating. Think of silly things, faces, songs, or whatever might help you fight off the anger rising in your blood. Most friends can appreciate a good joke, and someone who can make light of a situation.
  4. Use breathing techniques. There is a technique called “square breathing” which is an anger management technique done by counting to five while inhaling. Hold your breath for a count of five, and then exhaling slowly for another count of five. Continue this process until you feel yourself starting to calm down and you feel less angry. Then you will have a clearer mind about how you want to react (if at all) to the situation.
  5. Find a happy place. It sounds silly I know, but when I say to “find a happy place” I simply mean to find tings that help you relax. It may be a physical location, or a favorite room in the house, listening to a specific song, writing, or just a state of mind. Whatever you do to relax yourself, then use it daily to get yourself into that “happy place.”

Little kids sure can create big scenes! No matter how sweet your child is or how good a parent you are, meltdowns are a fact of toddler life. So try to remember that your child’s tantrums aren’t a reflection of your parenting skills: They simply mean you’ve got a frustrated little kid on your hands. Here’s how to handle them without losing your cool.Toddlers can’t express themselves very well. Your 2- or 3-year-old may know a lot of words, but he doesn’t yet have the ability to construct complex sentences  — or put words to all the emotions he’s feeling. That’s why instead of saying, “Mom, I’d really like orange juice with my toast, but only in the red cup because it looks weird in the blue one,” he screams bloody murder when you gave him apple juice in the blue cup.

They are easily overwhelmed. Toddlers thrive on routine, and a change can really throw them off. That means that adding in an extra errand or missing naptime by even 15 minutes can spell disaster. Certain places, like busy stores, can be overwhelming, too.They want to do more than they can handle. Toddlers are naturally very curious  — and are thrilled to discover they can suddenly do so many things on their own. Unfortunately, your child’s physical prowess doesn’t keep pace with his curiosity, so he gets frustrated when the block tower falls or he’s not allowed to climb the kitchen stool.

They don’t understand delayed gratification. Little kids live in the here and now, not in our cookies-are-for-after-dinner world. Not getting what they want, when they want it, is a top tantrum producer.They think they’re the center of the universe. In the me-me-me life of a toddler, no one else’s needs matter as much as his own. That’s why sharing is so difficult and as a result adults carry that along to the relationship, u can agree with me that no one loves sharing whats matters most in their lifes and they can do anything to protect it.

Our relationships are dictated by what we do and feel toward the other, ladies love the attention and if their can’t deliver it en they will always turn find another source.Ladies are complex bonds that God  created and they continue to amaze with every age they clock as their goals change.

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