Tech Droughts helps in communication

LIFE IS the best COACH.

as i am into technology a relative  told me that technology has invaded her home  taking over  most communication. as she relaxed on the couch after work one evening, she unsuccessfully tried to engage her 13 year  old daughter  in a conversation : yet they were in the same room but she was busy sending out text messages on her phone. she kept receiving one line answers even  when she wanted elaboration . she sought to know how many texts she had sent that day.

she recounts the daughter responded without looking up saying, in a  it-is-non-of-your-business tone that she did not know. when she insisted , she said 50texts (in seven hours she had been) she was quick to add that some of her friends were not yet at home.

she took this to mean that was a” low texting season” and things were about to get busier. her ordeal reminded of a  recent episode on the Steve Harvey show where Steve was responding  to a plea from a mother who believed that technology infiltration n in his home had led to  communication breakdown among her family  members. He and her two daughters and a son  aged 13,11 and 8 respectively spent far too much time working on their electronic devices.

Her plea was how to make his family spend less time in the virtual world and begin  communicating more often with one another.

they immediately thought to go “cold turkey’ for 48 hours. that is all their gadgets would be confiscated and they would only have each other for company with the show’s cameras recording their every move. the confiscation went without  a hitch  but as the weekend rolled on, evidence of their addiction  to gizmos unfolded.

1. feeling isolated.

the first casualty was the 13 year old daughter followed by the 11 year . within the first 12 hours, the eldest had begun  kicking a fuss  and became hysterical. her sister  was no better .

when asked what was bothering her, she said she was feeling isolated and confined, she had no alternative way to spend her time and had no intention of adopting a different  lifestyle. the young mas was more addicted to his PlayStation  and other games and appeared bored when told to go and play with other children. even the parents began to feel the effect of tech drought. the mother  complained of feeling out of control and realized that she had relied on her phone more than she thought, she felt crippled without.

watching this family reveals how society has become dependent on mobile technology  for communication and entertainment.

another friend shared his  family, he  felt while on a road trip with his family. he had to call his children’s attention  to watch anything interesting during the journey and felt they might as well have stayed at home.

i think  the idea of a trial cold turkey period is the beginning to weaning ourselves of this addiction. communication in a family is the fabric that holds it together.

relationships are fed by communication between the parties. physiologists are increasingly finding more people, across all age groups who find it hard to live without their gadgets.

2. Stimulate the body

the 11 year old  girl in the family under observation was particularly incensed that, among the items she “lost” was the new iPhone she had received as present two weeks earlier.

addiction sometimes sterns from the excitement to experiment with new technology. parents should  let their children know of alternative sources of entertainment.  there is need for teenagers to appreciate and engage in other activities that can stimulate the body and brain. it is advisable to be offline occasionally so one can spend quality time with one self.

there is a certain ‘fix” people get when they feel others want to engage them with these gadgets. parents should let their children know that properly choreographed exposure and choice of company may in the long run create a uniqueness that would make them more appealing to friends.

for as much as the technology has positive influence on our life addiction to it leads to unsocial lifestyles and become unreliable people. the early you tame your kids with the gadgets at their disposal communication channel will not be affected. be on the look out  and once in a while let you and your family enjoy“COLD TURKEY”  serving .

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man to man talk with son

as my son turns five and just  graduated to class one, i have noticed he has a close attached to a small girl of same age and he bold introduces her to we ( my wife n I) “mammie, mammie , dad look whom i brought over for lunch!”

we both look at each other in awe but he continued and with a cheeky face that made me run for the hills when he said,

“dad, how do u see my new girlfriend ?,aint we just  cute together”

at that moment i realized why it was now the right time to have a man to man talk with my handsome young son, as too much TV was what he had n i hate surprises  that are accustomed to him. i had a hard rough time explaining why on this earth you cannot:-

1. You Can Not Chase Money And Women At The Same Time – Even when so many fathers have made this mistake in their youthful days they still end up failing to tell their sons that one cannot hunt for money and women at the same time. It is either one makes money and then start chasing women or the other way round.

2. A Man Gets More Respect Based On His Pocket – This point is not trying to encourage crime or ungodly acts in other to make wealth but to face reality. It is a known fact that both within the home front and the society at large, a man is respected the more according to how comfortable and financially free he becomes.

3. Women Can Make Or Ruin You – So many fathers even when they know the truth of the power of any woman, still shy away from enlightening their sons on the critical hidden powers a woman possesses. From the days of Adam, Samson, Solomon, Abacha and other notable men, we have seen how a man can either rise or fall through the power and influence of a woman. A man should therefore thread as softly as possible when dealing with a woman.

4. A Woman Can Smell A Successful Man From Miles Away – Women naturally have an hidden instinct of knowing a man who is successful or have the tendency of being successful in the future. So many women have stuck to a struggling and upcoming man against their parents wish of marrying an already made man. A woman will say things like “he has a bright future”, “he has potentials” or “he will be a great man in future”. Ladies who have uttered such words and stuck by their men have never gone wrong. Example is how Michelle Obama stuck with Barack through thick and thin.

5. A Woman Doesn’t Like A Weak Man -When fathers tell their sons never to give in to a woman’s pressure, they mostly advise their sons to be forceful on issues to prove he is the man of the house. When in reality, women prefer men who say less and do more, rather than the ones who keep talking but do less. The latter is the typical meaning of a weak man but fathers always advice to do such to prove he is the king of the house.

6. Women Appreciate Men With Fatherly Characters – Most men always miss out on this and as such never advise their sons to be a father figure to their wives. Women are best at doing this but every woman wants a man who sits her down to advice her, reason with her, give her constructive criticisms and above all, believe in her.

7. It Is Easier To Catch A Cheating Man Than Catch A Cheating Woman – Most men till date don’t know that it is far easier to get caught cheating as a man than catching a woman who cheats. A woman can make a man ‘father’ every single child she has but only her knows who the biological father is, while a man can hardly keep it as a secret from his wife when he has a love child outside the matrimonial home.

all long he sat there staring at me and when i was done he just asked me,

“dad does this make me man enough to propose, ?” to her in class so as i can marry her when we turn both 13  in  2920days to  come and on reducing end ?”

i just couldn’t say another word to this small brains that i had now made more enlightened for i am sure the grandpa was now happy looking down on us n overhearing  us have the talk that he couldn’t have with me at such tender age.

Honesty: the best thing that anyone can give you n aid your future that awaits.

 

Conversion starters of the hook

First Date Conversation Starters

Romance is more than just candles, flowers and a candlelit dinner. It is a state of mind. The couples that are enveloped in romance are the couples that see success in their relationships. Romance depends on the small things, to make the large things count. When you increase the amount or romantic gestures in your life you increase the meaning in the relationship.

Compliment.

Paying a compliment will help put your date in a good mood.Complimenting them on a piece of clothing or accessory can lead into further conversation.

Family and friends.

Ask your date if they have any siblings.Ask your date about their friends.

Food and drinks.

If you are at a restaurant, this is an appropriate time to bring this topic up.Ask what their favorite type of food or drink is.

Hobbies and interests.

Ask your date about what they enjoy doing in their free time.Ask follow up questions on this area, since they enjoy their interests and should also enjoy talking about them.

Movies and music.

Ask about the most recent movie they have seen or a movie that they would like to see.Ask about what music they like to listen to and/or who their favorite artist is.

Career and school.

Ask about what they think about school or their career.Ask about what future school/career aspirations they have.

Current events.

Before going out on your first date, read up on the news, information on the local community, celebrity gossip, sports…

Vacation.

Ask them to tell you about their most recent vacation or about future travel plans.
i believe no one escapes these below listed and no matter how awkward it may seem you will surely get the other one talking not unless they are deaf n they can’t hear u, as no one has got it all but at any one point you will have to overlook the faults n see them as the partners strong holds,
Relationship Questions

  • What is the first think you notice about a guy or girl?
  • Have you ever been in love?
  • Do you believe in soul mates?
  • What are your turn offs?
  • Do you believe in love at first sight?
  • Do you prefer short hair or long hair on a guy/girl?
  • What do you look for in a guy/girl?
  • Who was the last person you called?
  • Would you rather be rich and never find true love or be poor and find true love?

Sports Conversation Starters

  • Who is your favorite athlete?
  • How often do you exercise?
  • What is your favorite sports team?
  • Do you play any sports?

Vacation Questions

  • Where was the last place you went on vacation?
  • Where do you plan on going for your next vacation?
  • If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
  • What countries have you traveled to?
  • What was your worst vacation experience?

Food/Drink Topics

  • What is your favorite drink?
  • What is your favorite food?
  • What is your favorite meal of the day?
  • Are there any foods that you dislike or will not eat?
  • Are there any foods that you would like to try?
  • What is your favorite restaurant?
  • What is your favorite pizza topping?
  • What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
  • What did you have for dinner last night?
  • What is the signature dish that you cook?

Entertainment Topics

  • Who is your favorite actor?
  • What is your favorite movie of all time?
  • What was the worst movie you’ve ever seen?
  • What is your favorite TV show?
  • What was the last movie you’ve seen?
  • What type of music do you like to listen to?
  • Who is your favorite music artist?
  • What was the last book you read?

Personal Questions

  • Who do you look up to?
  • Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?
  • What are you scared of?
  • What is the best piece of advice you’ve received?
  • What do your parents do for a living?
  • What is your biggest regret?
  • What is your most embarrassing moment?
  • What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
  • What are some of your short-term goals?
  • What are some of your long-term goals?

Misc. Conversation Starters

  • Do you sleep with a stuffed animal?
  • Tell me about your first car.
  • Do you drink coffee or tea?
  • If you could have any super power, what would it be?
  • If you were stranded on a deserted island and you could have only 1 item, what would it be?
  • Do you believe in luck?
  • Do you play video games?
  • Do you believe people are inherently good?
  • How often do you shower?
  • What is your favorite board game?
  • What is your favorite charity?
  • Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket?
  • Do you prefer cats or dogs?
  • Would you prefer to live in the city or a rural area?
  • What is your favorite season?
  • Do you speak any other languages?
  • Have you ever cried because you were so happy?
  • What is the best thing that happened to you during the past week?
  • What is the worst thing that happened to you during the past week?
  • Do you sing in the shower?
  • What is the most valuable thing that you own?
  • What would you do if you only had 24 hours left to live?

By the end of the day we all talk to a stranger but we never bother what they would have said if you never made the attempt to say a simple hello. try asking for direction in a new town or place n u will get the direction without much of a struggle from a stranger bt a friend will have to ask what your going to do their or somehow he /she will be left wondering what you after or how come u don’t know the place n they do.

friends become enemies but there is no stranger who will be a stranger as a smile puts off any harmful persons away.a calm face and focus wins the confidence of a stranger, most say you are a friend to yourself because the stranger in you has no rum to make the life you live but you make all the choices for the future is in the control n thou shall never look at the past since.